You Call, He Texts Back: How to Know When You’re Being Blown-Off on a College Campus

Dating on a college campus can have ups and downs. The bright side is the fact that you probably live fairly close to one another, can meet up easily and may even already have mutual friends. The down side is the fact that this closeness can make managing a relationship a little weird. Dating can be confusing while crammed on a college campus, and it can be even harder to read any warning signs that would typically jump out clearly. There are, though, some signs you can be aware of in order to instantly detect shadiness on a college campus.

He uses the most discreet means of communication. If you call him, he doesn’t answer, and then texts back, there is a good possibility that he is hiding the fact that he’s talking to you. Other signs are only texts in place of calls, even when it would be much faster to call, and long periods of time between replies when you know he’s not doing anything.

He avoids places he knows you will be. He used to always show up where you hang out after class, but lately he’s been nowhere in sight. He may also be staying away from places where you know he’ll be and taking different routes to class. Don’t freak out about random occurrences like these, but if it happens suddenly and then pretty consistently afterward, you might be being blown off.

His friends seem weird around you. One advantage to seeing his friends all the time on campus is the fact that you can observe them for clues about your man. If they act awkward around you, laugh amongst themselves, look guilty or treat you in a patronizing way, he may be over you or even seeing someone else.

He suddenly has a ton of tests to study for or papers to write. This is a very handy excuse in college, but if it’s happening constantly, it’s probably just that: an excuse. If he has never been the type before to pull all-nighters in the library or if he used to let you know before-hand when he had tests coming up, and he’s suddenly unavailable, then he probably just doesn’t want to see you.

If you detect one or more of these signs occurring frequently, then you should be blunt with him and let him know where things stand for you in the relationship. If he’s not into that, then keep walking. If he was trying to blow you off, he’s definitely not worth your time, anyway.

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